As a mom, nothing throws off your day like a toddler who refuses to eat anything but toast. Or crackers. Or blueberries. One food, every meal, every day. You’re not alone, and yes, this phase can make you feel everything from stressed to confused to downright defeated.
Let's talk about when picky eating is normal, when it might not be, and how you can gently encourage variety (without the mealtime meltdowns).
Why Do Toddlers Get So Picky?
Picky eating is actually a normal part of toddler development. Around 18 months to 3 years, kids begin to assert independence. Saying “no” to certain foods is one way they do it. Add in slower growth rates, changes in taste, and the need for routine and suddenly, eating the same food every day feels comforting for them.
This doesn't mean your toddler will be a picky eater forever. For most kids, this phase passes naturally.
When Is It Normal?
If your toddler:
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Is still growing and gaining weight at a healthy pace
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Has energy and is meeting milestones
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Will sometimes try new foods, even just one bite
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Eats at least a few different things, even if not every day
…then it’s likely just a normal picky phase. Take a deep breath, you’re doing okay.
When Might It Be More Than a Phase?
While most picky eating is totally normal, there are times when it’s worth checking in with your pediatrician. Consider reaching out if:
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Your child eats fewer than five foods total
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They gag or vomit when trying new textures
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You notice signs of nutrient deficiency (extreme fatigue, pale skin, brittle nails)
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Their picky eating is getting worse over time
Don’t panic, just start with a simple conversation with your healthcare provider.
Tips to Gently Expand Their Diet
The goal isn’t to “fix” picky eating overnight, but to support your child in exploring new foods when they’re ready. Here are some mom-tested tricks that help:
1. Let Them Help Prep
Involve your toddler in cooking. Children are more likely to try something if they helped make it. Use a learning tower so your little one can safely stand at counter height and stir, mix, or rinse veggies.
Give them a wooden knife to safely chop soft foods like bananas or strawberries. The act of preparing food makes it less “scary” and builds confidence.
2. Keep Mealtime Fun & Low Pressure
Use colourful plates and a silicone placemat for messy encounters. It helps present new foods in a friendly, no-stress way. Avoid bribing, forcing, or begging them to take bites. Instead, make mealtime relaxed and chat about your day or share stories.
3. Offer Choices, Not a Restaurant Menu
Instead of cooking three different meals, offer small choices within the meal:
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“Would you like apples or grapes today?”
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“Do you want your toast plain or with nut butter?”
This gives toddlers a sense of control without making you a short-order cook.
4. Stick to a Routine
Toddlers thrive on routine. Try to serve meals and snacks at the same times each day. Offer water between meals to avoid filling up on milk or juice.
A designated kids furniture set for mealtime (like a toddler-sized table and chair) can also help give them ownership of their space and make eating feel more special.
5. Don’t Hide the Good Stuff (Too Much)
It’s okay to sneak spinach into smoothies, but also try serving visible veggies alongside favourites. Repeated exposure matters even if they ignore it 10 times, they might try it on the 11th.
What to Say Instead of “Just One Bite!”
It’s so tempting to beg, bargain, or bribe. But phrases like these can help more:
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“You don’t have to eat it, just explore it.”
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“What does it smell or feel like?”
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“Let’s touch it with the spoon together.”
Making food a full sensory experience (without pressure) helps build trust and curiosity.
Encouraging Independence
Picky eating is often about more than food. Toddlers are learning to make decisions and gain control in their tiny worlds. Encouraging independence during mealtime can go a long way whether it’s climbing into their learning tower, using their own utensils, or wiping up spills with a cloth. Letting your child participate, even in small ways, helps build confidence and connection.
Final Thoughts
If your toddler only wants to eat one food right now, it’s part of the journey. You’re not failing. You’re showing up with love, patience, and the best tools to guide them through.
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