Why Toddlers Thrive on Doing It Themselves

Why Toddlers Thrive on Doing It Themselves

Rachel Adetayo

As a mom, you probably agree when I say that toddlers want to do things on their own. They are eager to take the lead, and while it may seem messy or slow at times, this desire for independence is actually a key part of their development. And honestly? That’s exactly how they thrive. 

In this blog, I want to share why giving toddlers a bit of independence is a powerful way to help them grow. I’ll also share how safe, practical tools can support this journey.


Let’s Talk Toddler Independence

Toddlers are naturally curious. Once they start walking (and oh boy, running), they want to explore everything. They mimic what we do, from cracking eggs to brushing their teeth, because that’s how they learn.

But here’s the catch: they’re still little. And that means they need safe, supportive ways to do things “by themselves.”


How Doing It Themselves Builds Confidence

Have you ever seen your toddler’s face light up when they complete a task on their own? It’s the kind of moment that sticks with you.

When toddlers are given opportunities to take part in daily routines, they gain a real sense of purpose. Instead of being chores to them, they see it as a chance to contribute.

Try these activities next time to help build their confidence:

  • Helping in the kitchen using an educational tower

  • Climbing and playing on their jungle gym

  • Cleaning up toys on their own shelf

  • Feeding the family pet with supervision

Every time your little one achieves something solo (with a bit of support from you), it boosts their confidence and teaches problem-solving skills.

 

The Educational Tower: Why Do You Need One

An educational tower is a sturdy, child-sized step-up that lets toddlers safely reach the counter and get involved in daily activities. Cooking, baking, or even just washing fruits becomes a bonding moment and a learning opportunity.

When you bring your child into the kitchen with their tower, you’re saying, I trust you. It builds a secure, connected relationship.

And here’s something we’ve heard from countless parents: kids who help make meals are more likely to try new foods. So if you’ve got a picky eater, letting them prep might just do the trick. Who knows, right?


Setting Up for Independent Success

Encouraging independence doesn’t mean letting go completely. It’s about guiding your toddler with love and structure, and creating an environment that supports their growth. You don’t need to redesign your whole house. Start with one area where your toddler can “own” their role.

Here are a few mom-tested tips:

  • Keep things accessible, like putting snacks and cups where they can reach.

  • Use child-safe tools like an educational tower in the kitchen or low shelves in their room.

  • Let them help even if it’s messy or takes longer.

  • Celebrate effort, not perfection. A crookedly folded towel is still a win!


Why This Matters

Letting your toddler do things on their own isn’t always easy. Sometimes it’s messier, louder, and takes way longer. But the benefits? They’re lifelong.

I started Mommy’s Little Helper Co. because I saw how much my children blossomed when they had the tools and space to try things themselves. And I wanted to share that with other parents who care deeply about their children’s development but maybe don’t know where to start.

Our line of children’s furniture, from the educational tower to our play furniture, is thoughtfully designed with safety, function, and families in mind. You don’t have to choose between aesthetics and practicality. You can have both and give your child a solid foundation to grow. Visit our shop online.

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